Right Questions to Ask Foreign Women

Find out what are the right dating questions to ask foreign women.

If you think regular dating is tough, you should know by now that international dating is tougher. Not only do you have to deal with the distance, but you also have to be wary of the dating culture of the woman you’re dating. But if you think you have a better shot with foreign women, then you better put in the work. Fortunately, the challenges of international dating aren’t entirely insurmountable, and one way of solving them is through thorough communication.

Communication is just as crucial in the dating phases—especially when you are dating foreign ladies. While you are getting to know any potential match, make sure to have a list of dating questions handy to let you know whether you are compatible or not. They also help you get to know the woman you are seeing. To get you started, here’s a recommended list of questions to ask:

1. What are you looking for in a man?

This is perhaps one of the most important questions to ask. Whatever answer she gives you doesn’t necessarily mean you have to change. You are simply gauging whether you have most or at least some of the qualities she is looking for. If you don’t, then don’t be too discouraged. After all, there are plenty of other foreign women out there. The point is this question helps you find a woman that would accept you for who you are.

2. Where do you see yourself in five to ten years time?

Do you want to know if there is a future between you and your date? Then ask this question. Not only that, you’ll also know whether you, more or less, want the same things out of a relationship.

Now there are plans of hers that don’t necessarily affect you. That’s understandable considering she has her own to lead. But asking this question helps you know how big of a presence you would be in her life. After all, you wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where you are constantly trying to get her attention or time. You want to be with someone who’s present, engaging, and accommodating.

3. What are your relationship deal breakers?

Aside from commitment, relationships are also all about compromise. There are times when you give and take. But then there are factors that you would absolutely cannot tolerate so much that you would end the relationship entirely. It’s most likely that your date also has her own set of relationship deal breakers. By finding out what they are, you can train yourself to avoid any of them. While knowing beforehand wouldn’t eliminate the chances of getting into arguments, it does lessen the chances of that happening. And on the plus side, you get cookie points if you respect her wishes and abide by her conditions.

4. What are most important to you?

Women have goals and dreams, and they can be determined to fulfill them. Her aspirations reveal a lot about who she is, especially what matters to her most. From there, you have an idea what kind of woman she is and whether she is someone you can see yourself with. Your goals and aspirations don’t have to be exactly the same, but your relationship would go a lot smoother if you want the same things out of life.

5. What do you do on your day off?

Now that you’ve got the important stuff out of the way, it’s time to delve to lighter topics. You can set her at ease with this question. Just because you two are getting to know each other doesn’t mean that your questioning feels like an interrogation.

Aside from helping her relax, this question lets you know the lighter side of her. What does she enjoy doing? What makes her laugh? What are her hobbies? You can also find out if you would enjoy spending time with her.

Questions to Avoid

In the thick of your conversation, you might find yourself letting your guard down a little and feel like you can ask her just about anything. There’s nothing wrong with testing the waters on what you can ask, but there are some questions that are downright rude. When getting to know your foreign date, you must avoid asking these questions:

• Why are you still single?

This may seem like a harmless question, but it can even be misconstrued as offensive. That’s because the woman might get the impression that you’re trying to find what’s wrong with her. Or that you want to judge her life choices.

• Are you seeing anyone else?

Again, this is another seemingly harmless question, but it sends a mixed signal. Maybe she would think that you think she’s easy, unfaithful, or have excess baggage. In hindsight, the fact that she’s entertaining you is proof enough that she’s available. And if she’s giving you the time of day, she’s probably interested in you. So don’t screw up your chances by asking this question.

• Would you like to spend the night with me?

This is the most taboo question of all, especially when you are dating foreign women. That’s because there are some that come from countries that have conservative values, which might be completely opposite of western dating culture. Not all of them are as liberated as western women. And she might also get the idea that you aren’t that serious or even make her question your intentions. You wouldn’t want her thinking that you’re only looking for a hookup or a one-night stand.

Overall, don’t hesitate to ask questions. How else would you get to know her if you don’t. And if you have trouble with your communication lines, our matchmakers are ready and willing to relay your questions to potential matches. Sign up today!